Okay, just asking because I'm curious about your opinion because you reblogged that 'we are all the human race', when talking about gender distinction, I usually try to say that we are all human and while we face different struggles because of the bodies we are born in, pitting one gender doesn't help, what are your feelings on that?
#mentions/discussion of abuse, rape, transphobia and violence against trans* people #long post
Short answer: Yes, we’re all human, but we sure as hell are not all treated the same. Some of us aren’t even treated as humans.
I agree that pitting one gender against another doesn’t help, but that’s not what people promoting and fighting gender equality are trying to do. They’re trying to make the group with privilege (in this case, cisgender people, and especially cisgender males) recognize their privilege and how the inequalities between us is not only unfair, but leads to abuse, poverty, inadequate health care (if any), homelessness, rape, and so on.
I’m not really sure what you’re referring to when you talk about gender groups being pitted against each other, but what springs to mind is, y’know, trans* people talking about how much they hate cis people or making jokes (“i thought i saw a cisgender before but it was actually old cheese” or whatever) which isn’t anything at all like the rapes/beatings/murders/discriminatory legislation that trans* people often face at the hands of cis people.
Or even like all that ~men’s rights~ bullshit where some dudes complain about being expected to pay for dinners and having their masculinity tied to physical strength, etc. Like??? MRA vs Feminism isn’t really pitting one against the other, but literally just a group of privileged people enraged and upset at the idea of being called misogynists and any insinuation that they need to change their behavior.
I hope this makes sense. But yeah, I don’t really know what you mean by that statement.
In any case, what is important to remember is that the differences in each of our experiences can’t be trivialized. Yeah, sure, we’re all human, but do we encourage men to take rape aggression defense classes? Do cis people feel unsafe every time they use a public restroom because they don’t know if someone will hurt them? Yeah, men and boys can be raped too and yes, they’re less likely to report it, but are the societal gender roles and expectations that cause this ones that harm men more than they do women (as in the idea that men are strong while women are weak; the idea that being penetrated is weak and emasculating)?
Yeah, we’re all human, but why, then, are some of us treated like less than that? Why are some genders treated like oddities? Why is strength more associated with some over others? Why do cis women in the elite business world have to take on more masculine traits and habits to be taken seriously (shoulder pads were apparently created to give women a more “broad” and thus more masculine appearance; women are given tips to appear more dominant aka masculine to succeed in business, etc)?
I mean I could really go on and on.
Hope that answers your question.